Chungking Express (1994), dir. Wong Kar-wai

im a grown woman i dont feel the childish need for acceptance that i craved in my youth anymore. shaking and gripping the sink

ways to reclaim your body:

• shave your head or cut your hair
• go for a run, run as hard as you can
• get a new piercing or tattoo
• cook a meal from scratch and eat it with no distractions
• swim in your nearest body of water, or take a cold shower or bath
• stretch, do a yoga routine and feel every muscle
• wear clothes that you like, doesnt matter what it looks like
• avoid mirrors, your body doesnt need to look a certain way to be valuable
• hold someone close, a loved one or a pet or hold yourself tight
• lay down on your bed or on grass, close your eyes and feel yourself sink into the surface deeply
• turn music on loud and dance however feels good
• drink a a big glass of water or as much as you can, feel the discomfort and let it dissipate
• try to meditate, do a body scan in whatever position feels comfortable (or uncomfortable) and pay attention to as fine a detail as possible
• sing or hum or make noise, hear it reflect back at you, feel the way it vibrates your cheeks, your lips, your bones
• drink some hot tea or any other hot beverage, feel its warmth spread down your throat and into your chest
• sit outside, no matter the weather and experience it, the wind, the sun, or the rain on your cheeks and your eyelids

"you know how on tik tok--" no. "ugh i keep seeing these people on tik tok saying--" Delete it. Delete the app

Parents be like that’s my emotional support eldest daughter

Hi guys! Firm and not-at-all-gentle reminder that this post does not include men. Women and girls are specifically expected to be parents, therapists, entertainers, cooks, maids, and emotional punching bags because of the patriarchy and the expectations placed on us. Being the eldest daughter of a family is a uniquely traumatizing experience that doesn’t extend to being the eldest son in any way.

Love the idea that women think they’re the only ones parents unload burdensome and unrealistic expectations upon. Female narcissism knows no bounds

“Sons provide a lower relative share of total parent care if they have a sister, whereas daughters provide a larger relative share if they have a brother.”

So not only do sons not help with the family, they actually generate more labour to be done and more burden placed on the daughters?

⋆˚｡⋆୨୧ In the Mood for Love (2000)

with love to you all you CANNOT be pretending tswift is a master lyricist. like you absolutely can and i cannot stop you but it is embarrassing. i’m protecting my own peace

Men who slam doors and furniture are making sure you hear how much they want to hit you.

No. They are using a completely responsible and non-harmful outlet for their anger. This shows how much they don’t want to hit you. Some people even purchase actual punching bags to have a permanent outlet at home or join a material arts club. These are healthy coping mechanism often encouraged and approved by therapists. Also, needless to say it’s not exclusively men who do this.

I’m a few months from my liscense to practice therapy, and I already do in supervision. No, slamming doors and throwing around furniture is not a recommended technique by any well-trained up-do-date therapist. Doing this with someone else around is creating at atmosphere of intimidation. Literally I have been over every single one of these points for years, you can check my #door slam post tag. I’ve replied to all these points many, many times over.

Anyone with a basic knowledge of social psychology or neuroscience knows that neurons that fire together, wire together. If you respond to something with anger, you’re more likely to keep responding to things with anger. No competent therapist would tell a patient to respond with violence- that’s literally just making you more prone to violence.

Men who slam doors and furniture are making sure you hear how much they want to hit you.

Also, I’m guessing those with “basic knowledge of social psycology or neuroscience”, would be totally against BDSM and other such kinks. 

“neurons that fire together, wire together.“, so if slamming doors makes one more prone to violence, actually hitting and choking someone would make one even more prone to violence.

That’s true, actually.

None of us said it wouldn’t? We are against BDSM for this exact reason? Our philosophy is internally consistent?

Uhm???

Amsterdam is such a gross city*. I walked off the main train station RIGHT INTO the red light district, which is basically unavoidable for tourists. Girls in the windows, gross men being drunk and high and pissing everywhere, and there were used condoms left on the sidewalk. It was nasty. And like 2/3rd of the men there were sex tourists. The reason why I am dissing this city is because many years ago a Canadian dude attended and later talked at me, in detail, this EXACT sex show, I know exactly what's being referenced here. I'm shocked this is still going on there but I guess a tourist draw is a draw.

*I'm sorry if you're from there, the Netherlands is beautiful and the suburbs are wonderful. I love the little cafes and I stayed in Haarlem when I was there. But listen I almost stepped on a used condom trying to see the Anne Frank house. Visceral disgust.

These are the most basic fucking lyrics that someone could possibly write this is like middle school diary level writing. I feel like I'm being gaslit when people say she's a master lyricist this is literally that fucking "I'm ok/I'm not okay" meme